A Little bit of This, and a Little bit of That

So a little over a year ago, a very good friend of my husband and I finally managed to get a girlfriend.  He was 28 at the time, she was 22 (pretty sure).  This girl was a very shy girl, and at first we didn’t know what to think of her.  She didn’t say much . . . . so it was hard to determine how you felt about her.

We decided to go on a camping trip to the Upper Peninsula of Michigan.  We invited our buddy and his girlfriend.  Over the 3 day trip we definitely got to know her a bit better, and we really liked her.  They seemed like a great couple, and we thought that the relationship could last a long time.

A few months after the trip, our friend lost his job.  He and his girlfriend worked at the same place.  She decided to move in with him and help him get back on his feet until he got a better job.  Unfortunately, this is when everything in his life started going backwards. (enough of this he and she stuff, their names are Greg, and Jessi).  Greg didn’t go forward in life and find a better job, he reverted and went back to working midnights at a gas station.  Yes, it’s better then no job, and it would have been great if he continued to look for work. . . but he didn’t.

Jessi finds out she is pregnant.  When she tells Greg, he barely reacts.  He doesn’t get excited, he doesn’t comfort her, he basically just says “um okay.”  So of course, Jessi is very upset by this (anyone in their right mind would be).  About two weeks later, she decides she wants to move back in with her mom.  When she tells Greg, his reaction again is, “um okay”. He doesn’t try to talk her into staying, doesn’t even care, in fact he came over to our house to hang out and while he was gone she packed all her stuff and left. 

They didn’t talk for a long time after that.  Greg made little to no effort to go and talk with her.  And she had already been treated so badly, she didn’t want to go talk to him. 

He eventually did go and see her, but he didn’t make anything better.  He played it like an idiot and didn’t ask her anything about the baby.  He then bought her a playpen changing table thing, because I told him to.  He didn’t even give it to her in person.  He dumped it off at her work.

This baby boy is due on July 3rd.  Greg has no nursery ready, hasn’t done anything to prepare to be a father, and still doesn’t have much contact with Jessi.  This is a person I knew for years, and my husband and I both thought he was a good person.  He sure proved us wrong.  He is a lazy, good for nothing, deadbeat.  I don’t think he even realizes that we dont’ talk to him anymore. 

I feel so bad for his parents.  They are wonderful people, in fact all his family are wonderful, and they are all trying to be very supportive of Jessi.  They have already done a lot for her, and Greg doesn’t even seem to care.  He didn’t even call his dad on Father’s day.  He works Midnights, and thinks that makes it so he has no time to do anything.  He works 32 hours a week most weeks . . . I mean come on.

Anyway, I just had to rant about that a bit.  Had to get it out of my system.  I hope when the baby is born something snaps in Gregs mind and he grows up. . but I doubt it.